I have been serving women as a doula for over a year and just had my first encounter with what is apparently an extremely common rash in pregnant women - Pruritic Urticarial Papules and Plaques of Pregnancy. Or, much shorter, PUPPP.
She says, "With these things in mind, we can ask the right questions to guide our clients toward decisions that will help them truly experience this holiday season as the most wonderful time of the year.
Learn to decline invitations to events you have neither the time nor energy to attend.
Too many things to do means not enough rest and added stress, both of which will lead us further from our wellness goals rather than toward them.
Offer to prepare healthy recipes to take to events so that there is an alternative to the unhealthy holiday treats that are sure to be in abundance at holiday parties. Some simple options would be a fruit platter, a mixture of raw nuts and seeds with dried cranberries, a raw vegetable plate with homemade dip such as hummus, or a beautiful red and green salad. I have found that the healthy food I bring ends up being a big hit with everyone else and I have contributed to their wellness success in addition to my own.
Take advantage of sunny days.
Lower temperatures drive people indoors and away from the sunshine. Make a point to keep your blinds and curtains open so that as much sunshine as possible will enter your home. Go for a brisk walk in the sunshine during the warmest part of the day whenever possible. Sunshine is extremely important for our immune system and our overall outlook on life.
Be reasonable about gift-giving.
Make something special for friends and family. This year, my family collected pretty shells on the beach all year and are making beautiful Christmas ornaments out of our shells. Financial struggles are major stressors during the holidays. It helps to make it a point to live within our means and focus on the heart of love behind the giving rather than the monetary value of the gift. After all, that is what is most important anyway.
This is a video excerpt from the homemade film called "The Journey to Homebirth," made by Alexandra Orchard. We watched this film at the VBAC workshop I attended recently and I found it to be a really poignant story. She ends the film with a powerful letter that she wrote to her doctor, explaining why she is choosing to leave his care and have her third baby at home.
"Our country has the best medical technology available in the world, yet we are 20th in the world for infant mortality. I am all for women’s choice in childbirth, however it is incredibly one-sided. Women can choose a cesarean for no medical reason, but I could not find one doctor in my area willing to give me the chance of a natural childbirth after two cesareans. One nurse laid it out perfectly for me: "no doctor is willing to risk their career on you", she said, and I knew she was right. But my baby and I deserved more. I knew I would be in better hands with my midwife who knew my baby so well and wouldn’t be pushing my body or my mind with time limits, instruments, or any other stresses. I felt very strongly that my chance of having a successful vaginal birth would be significantly compromised in a hospital setting. I gave birth to my daughter at home because it was right for us... We were made to do this. We don’t need to be “rescued” from this important, though sometimes difficult journey. We need to be in control and we need to be given the freedom and time to let our bodies and our babies do what needs to be done in peace. We need to be surrounded by people who will be patient with our bodies, our babies, and our progress in a natural labor. More importantly, we need to be surrounded by people who believe in us."
"Waiting can be a nurturing time. Pregnant waiting is a profoundly creative act, involving a slow growth to new life. This kind of waiting may appear passive externally but internally it consists of never-ending action and is a helpful analogy for the kind of waiting that Advent requires."
Yesterday I attended a workshop concerning the particular needs of moms who are attempting vaginal birth after cesarean. Most doctors won't even attempt a VBAC and some midwives won't either. But besides finding a care provider who will be supportive of her decision, a mother choosing VBAC will need distinctive care.
Jessica Atkins taught the workshop at Centre Vida, a birth center in south Austin. There were 12 doulas in attendance.
As I am at almost every workshop I attend, I was reminded that the role of a doula is not to fix things or to make lots of suggestions or to use the newest techniques I've learned, but to listen and to support the mother as best I can. That support will look different based on the client, so it is important that I am listening to her and learning to recognize her needs.
This is a great piece that Jessica shared with the attendees:
Not judging and telling your own story.
Not offering advice.
Offering a handkerchief, a touch, a hug… caring.
We are here to help women discover what they are feeling…
not to make the feelings go away.
We are here to help a woman identify her options…
not to tell her which options to choose.
We are here to discuss steps with a woman…
not to take the steps for her.
We are here to help a woman discover her own strength…
not to rescue her and leave her still vulnerable.
We are here to help a woman discover that she can help herself…
not to take that responsibility for her.
We are here to help a woman learn to choose…
not to make unnecessary for her to make difficult decisions.
The workshop didn't cover any specific comfort measures for women experiencing VBAC, but it did provide me with lots of interesting statistics about the cesarean rate in the USA today compared with decades past and other countries. Having that information and understanding more about the risks of cesarean birth will be helpful in understanding the concerns of women who are wrestling with whether or not to choose VBAC.
Jennifer Margulis thinks birth should be a private party — no doctors or midwives invited. So when her daughter Leone Francesca was born at home last month, only Margulis and her husband, James, were in attendance.
“My husband and I were the only ones there when she was conceived,” says the 40-year-old writer from Ashland, Ore. “I thought we should be the only ones there when she was born.”
Margulis is part of a very small but growing number of women who are choosing to deliver their babies at home without the presence of health professionals. Some choose to have a husband or another family member help, while others opt to deliver their babies completely on their own.
The number of home births unattended by either a doctor or a midwife jumped by nearly 10 percent between 2004 and 2006, climbing from 7,607 unassisted births to 8,347 births, according to most recent figures from the National Center for Health Statistics. About 60 percent of the nearly 25,000 home births logged in 2006 were attended by midwives, a figure that experts expect will also rise.
While do-it-yourself deliveries are still uncommon, many doctors and midwives consider them dangerous. Risks can range from hemorrhage in the mother to problems with the baby’s oxygen supply during delivery.
“Most births are not complicated but when something goes wrong, everything happens very quickly and things can go downhill very fast,” says Donna Strobino, a professor and deputy chair in the department of maternal and child health at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health in Baltimore.
“If you look at data from developing countries where unattended births are more common, you see a higher rate of infant and maternal mortality with unattended births than with hospital births.”
Even among healthy women with no clear risk factors, life-threatening complications can arise suddenly, says Dr. Hyagriv Simhan, an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology and chief of maternal-fetal medicine at the Magee-Womens Hospital of the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. “There are lots of women who experience unpredictable bad events,” Simhan says.
Shauna Schoenborn, a stay-at-home mom from Imperial, Mo., and other advocates of unassisted birth aren’t swayed by doctors' warnings. To them, pregnancy and delivery are natural processes that the medical establishment has turned into disease that must be managed.
After giving birth to her first baby in the hospital, Schoenborn, 31, chose to have her next four children at home — by herself. Although her husband was in the house during the births, he didn't help with the deliveries.
“My hospital births were very managed,” says Schoenborn. “I wanted privacy and to be free of internal exams. I wanted to give birth in an upright position and they want you to lie down. I feel birth is an instinctive process and in the hospital they treat women like they’re broken and birth like an illness.”
‘I know my body’ Schoenborn also chose not to have prenatal care from a medical professional. That meant no internal exams and no ultrasounds to check for twins and fetal development. “I would know if I was carrying twins,” Schoenborn says. “I know my body.”
For Margulis, the biggest problem in the hospital — and even at home with a midwife — was interference with “normal” labor. When a pregnant woman enters the hospital, Margulis says, she’s signing on for a host of unnecessary interventions, including multiple internal exams, a greatly increased likelihood of receiving the drug oxytocin to speed delivery and also of a Caesarean section.
Margulis’ first baby was born in a hospital and the next two were at home with a midwife. Margulis wasn’t happy with either experience and decided she wanted more control over the process.
After researching the do-it-yourself option, she felt assured the birth process is “safer than taking a shower.”
Margulis cited a recent Canadian study that found giving birth at home with a midwife was about as safe for babies and moms as in a hospital, with the rate of newborn deaths about two per 1,000 for planned home births. The rate of C-sections was a few percentage points higher in hospitals.
However, the women in the studies were very healthy, had no risk factors, and had small-sized babies, says Dr. Harish M. Sehdev, an assistant professor of clinical obstetrics and gynecology and director of labor and delivery at Pennsylvania Hospital in Philadelphia. Hospitals generally have much higher C-section rates because they treat a variety of new moms, including those who are overweight, have big babies and have lots of risk factors like diabetes and high blood pressure.
In addition, one in 20 women who had chosen to give birth at home ended up delivering in the hospital. “And those were the low-risk women,” Sehdev adds.
More important, says midwife Pamela Kane, Margulis is “comparing apples and oranges.” The studies cited by Margulis are looking at home births with midwives present, not unattended births, which are more risky because you don’t have a trained professional nearby who can spot the early warning signs of a serious problem, says Kane, a certified nurse midwife at Pennsylvania Hospital.
And while women like Margulis and Schoenborn may not like being put on a birthing schedule, experts say there are reasons doctors choose to intervene with oxytocin or a C-section if the labor isn’t progressing fast enough. Among them is the risk of damage to the musculature of the pelvic floor if women strain too long, says Sehdev.
When those muscles are damaged, it weakens the moorings that hold the uterus, the bladder and the bowels in place. The impact of that may not be seen till women hit their 50s and 60s, when the organs can unexpectedly drop down into the vaginal canal.
The choices women make might change if they saw the catastrophes that nobody likes to talk about, says Sehdev. “I’ve known women who lost their babies because the baby got stuck and they couldn’t get to the hospital fast enough,” he explains.
Those realities have affected the way Augustine Colebrook looks at unattended births. Colebrook had three children on her own before going back to school to become a midwife so that she could help with births herself.
“I struggle with myself wondering if I would have another kid unattended, after being a midwife for almost 10 years,” says the 33-year-old from Ashland, Ore., who consulted with Margulis during pregnancy. “I think I probably would — it was a life-changing experience. But I’m not sure.”
Margulis, however, says she finally experienced the kind of birth she wanted.
"It was absolutely incredible, a totally empowering experience," she said. "When you give birth by yourself, you realize how powerful and strong your body is."
Linda Carroll is a health and science writer living in New Jersey. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Newsday, Health magazine and SmartMoney.